Tag: Happiness

India – Day Five & Six: Udaipur

Next, the City of Lakes, sometimes also called the White City (because of all the white marble palaces.)

I have always wanted to go to Udaipur for YEARS because there are many, MANY movies and miniseries which have been filmed here. I’m planning on making a list of my favorite films shot/about in India when I get home, but for now a few are Heat and Dust (1983), The Jewel in the Crown (1984), and the Best Exotic Marigold Hotel (2011.

Our guide, Rohit, lives in Udaipur so we had a special treat. He had been invited to a wedding on the first evening we arrived and arranged for us to attend with him. My first Indian wedding – so exciting!

And it turns out, as I mentioned previously, February is a very popular month to get married, and the 10th, the day we arrived, was an extremely auspicious date apparently (we think because it was a full moon) because we saw a LOT of wedding activity and at least two other weddings that we counted in addition to the one that we were attending.

As we drove into town we saw a horse being carted to one of the weddings.
This is the horse which a groom would be riding in on.

Then we had to stop for a bit on a bridge because there was a wedding party passing. I shot a video as best as I could. Fabulous!

I took a bunch of photos too but most of them were blurry because they were jumping up and down with the music. (Or was i the one moving up and down to the music?)

We arrived at our hotel when it was dark. Still, you could see how gorgeous it was. I took a ton of photos but I won’t post all of them. Even the key was a work of art.

My room, fit for a Queen!

This photo (the one right above) is the view out my WINDOW! If you look at the photo before that you can see the benches in front of the window – this is the view they look out onto. The only bad thing is that the windows were a bit low for me. If I had sat on that bench I would have needed a fork lift to get back up. And I am also a tallish person, so I had to hunch over a bit to look out. Still, at night I pulled the chair over from the desk and gazed out for a bit before drawing the curtains.

The only other thing that was not great about the room is that I had to go up three steps to get to the bathroom, and as usual there was no railing. Thankfully I didn’t have to make any middle of the night dash to the loo (I was worried I might break my neck!)

The wedding was S-P-E-C-T-A-C-U-L-A-R! It was everything you would expect. So colorful, lots of food. Everyone was extremely friendly and welcoming.

This dashing man is the Father of the Groom (or was it the Bride?) He was a friend of Rohit’s. There were separate seating areas for men and for women and they sat us at the edge of the men’s section (because we are westerners I was told, not sure if that was true or not.) Our host came over and saw that we didn’t have drinks and immediately made sure we had a choice of beer, water, soda, or Indian rum.

I’ve been trying to stick to water and masala chai on this trip since Indian food already has so many spices that are anti-inflammatory. For a person who is on blood thinners you want to make sure you don’t come over here and eat a bunch of Indian food AND drink a bunch of alcohol. Or, if you are going to do that, eat a lot of cooked spinach.

This was the Father of the Bride (I think.) I couldn’t hear very well, I was on the other side of the group. Plus, I was completely enamored by his moustache! Isn’t it wonderful?!?
I felt like everyone looked like they stepped right out of a movie.

We stayed later than originally planned. We had thought we would only stay an hour but stayed well over two. I think we left around 11:00? And the Bride & Groom hadn’t even arrived yet! Rohit stayed until right before midnight and I think either they had just arrived or they were just about to arrive. Those Indians really know how to party!


The next day I stayed at the hotel for a few hours in the morning with Regine (our American guide) while the rest of the group went to tour the Fort. There have been a few places along the way where I have stayed behind because Regine felt it would be too difficult for me either because it had tons of stairs or might be too cramped or narrow, that sort of thing. Since I am here for three-and-a-half weeks I certainly don’t want to overdo it, so I am okay with staying back.

This is the lock on my door. You already saw how big the key was in my hand earlier, so the should give you an idea of how substantial this lock is. Took me a few tries to get it to work.
Believe it or not, this is the window of my bathroom! Course, it’s not this beautiful on the inside. In fact, they have curtains over it so you can’t even really enjoy the stained class.
This was across from the hotel office. I don’t know where it went but I wanted to go up these stairs and snoop.
My view at breakfast. I am hooked on masala omelettes and masala chai.

Regine and I took a TukTuk to meet up with the rest of the group for lunch. We dined at the Royal Repast.

You don’t often see women driving scooters.

The Royal Repast is a lovely restaurant which has been by the Bedla family, in their ancestral home, for over 85 years. They have had the honor of serving many famous people there including Queen Elizabeth, Jacqueline Kennedy, the Shah of Iran, Indira Gandhi, and Jawarlal Nehru.

The Royal Repast
Lovely art on the walls

After lunch we took another TukTuk to the City Palace where we were able to take a boat tour of the lake. If I understood Rohit correctly, there used to be tours from all over – in fact our hotel had a dock, but now there are only two places (I think it was only two) where people are allowed to launch boats. It’s a bummer, because it would have been so convenient to go from our hotel, but I’m sure that it must have been madness to have boats going from everywhere.

One of the women went back to the hotel in one of the TukTuks so four of them piled into this one, just like real Indians!
Another guide from Travel Scope (our Indian tour company.)
I wish men in America wore Nehru collared vests.
You may recognize this, it has been in several movies/miniseries –
this is the Lake Palace Hotel.
Scaffolding on a building being renovated
This is a 150-year-old Gangaur Boat (Gangaur is a Rajasthani festival.) If you have ever seen the movie ‘Octopussy’ you may recognize it.
I took pictures of this from a distance but the close up is much more impressive. This is another architectural accomplishment by Shah Jahan,
who you all know to be the man who was responsible for the Taj Mahal.
Street scenes are my favorite photos.
And the street art is a close second… (My friend Meta would go nuts here!)
I don’t have a clue what this is – there appears to be phone numbers, it could be an advertisement for a plumber, but it’s beautiful nonetheless.

We didn’t have a dinner planned with the group so I scheduled a massage and an oil-drip for when I returned to the hotel. They had an authentic Ayurvedic spa and I couldn’t pass up the opportunity.

I chose a one-hour massage and a one-hour oil drip. I really didn’t know what to expect.

I have weekly massages back home, have been having them for years, decades really, but the truth is, I have never had a massage from a man. And I didn’t actually think that my first one would be in India of all places.

I had brought a robe with me because I’ve been in enough spas in my lifetime where they haven’t had a robe that fit me. Turns out I didn’t need one because guess what, they don’t use them. Oh no, they don’t, just a towel. And a standard sized towel. NO SHEET! So not only was I worrying about side boob, but I was worrying about side thigh and side stomach and side everything!

If you’ve never had an Ayurvedic massage, they are a little more intense than a normal massage. I certainly wouldn’t want to have them on a regular basis but I just kept telling myself – this is good for me. As I heard my masseuse becoming quite winded while he kneaded away – this is good for you, this is good for you, this is good for you.

When he reached under the towel and started doing my stomach I realized I was truly in a different world and my anxiety level shot through the ceiling. I’m not sure how people are supposed to relax when getting a massage like this – maybe they aren’t supposed to.

I think there may actually have been a shift change about three-quarters of the way through my massage because all of a sudden the man said he had to go and the owner came in and finished. He was very nice, told me I needed to stop using Stevia (he warned me, even if it says it is pure Stevia, it isn’t.) There was a woman who kept coming in to check on me and every time she would see me she’d say in the most lovely, sing-songy voice, “Good morning!” (Even though it was after 7 in the evening.) She was very sweet.

After I finished with my massage they covered me up with a bunch of towels (where were these towels earlier?!?) and they removed a part of the top section of the massage table. There was a hole cut into the table where a bowl could be placed. And then there was a hole cut into the bottom of the bowl. That is where the oil ran out into a container on the floor. I placed my head over the bowl and then they set up this contraption over my head where they could pour a bunch of oil into a device that allowed them to release the oil in various streams. The oil was warm and it felt good but it was a very long hour. I thought it was going to be more steady and not so much at one time.

When I left they told me not to shower that night so the oil could soak in. I had several Indian friends in college, women with long, beautiful, thick hair. I know that they put oil on it at night so I thought I should try it. They also told me to only take a hot shower the next day and not to use soap. I followed that advice.

Next time I would not do the oil drip. It took me about three days of showering to get my hair to look normal again. I would definitely get another Ayurvedic massage but would want it done by a woman.

Little reading nook in the office of the hotel.
One last photo of the lake before we go…

Goodbye to Udaipur.

Five Things I Love (12/9/19)

1. A friend of mine posted this on social media and I think it was one of the most clever things I’ve seen for the holidays in a long time! I know it’s the 9th so you’ll have to catch up if you start today!

2. OMG OGEE! Okay, normally I don’t go crazy over a makeup product but I have been searching for a lipstick like this for YEARS. Any other menopausal broads out there will understand this – my lips are not what they were 30 years ago. They aren’t even what they were 10 years ago. They’ve lost definition and they are dry as a desert (my auto-immune disease doesn’t help that.) When I saw the ad for Ogee’s Tinted Sculpted Lip Oil I thought, yeah, right. The way it went onto the beautiful model’s lips (who was NOT a menopausal broad by the way), it just glided on and looked amazing. Give me a break. But despite my skepticism I ordered three different shades and damn girlfriend if it isn’t da bomb! Seriously, give it a try!

Ogee’s Tinted Sculpted Lip Oil

3. John Mulaney is, in my opinion, one of the funniest comedians alive. This little bit, I believe, proves it…

John Mulaney with Jimmy Fallon on the Tonight Show’s Holiday Edition of the WHEEL OF OPINIONS.

4. This book by Laura Weir. (Review from Publisher’s Weekly here.) It’s obvious to those who know me why I would love it (I’m a MAJOR Anglophile – though right now things are such a mess over there, it’s more of a love-hate relationship.)

This book is obvious born from the Scandinavian movements that are currently so popular and that focus on cosiness, contentment, and happiness. Hygge, Lagom, and Fika, just to name a few. There are so many books on the subject and I’ve been reading them all!

5. This film short made me giggle…

CG Short Film – Opera performed by animals

Five Things I Love (11/25/19)

Love may not actually be a strong enough word for some of these, but I didn’t want to oversell anything. Thought I’d share with all of you, on a weekly basis (plan to do this on Mondays), five things I came across, used, saw, thought about, well, you get the gist, during the previous week. Here’s my first go…

1. This video of Taika Waititi and Stephen Merchant breaking down a scene from the movie JoJo Rabbit…

Taika Waitiki came onto my radar after I had watched Thor: Ragnarok. Ragnarok was different from all of the other Marvel films up to the point and I became a little obsessed. I started watching everything I could find on YouTube – outtakes, deleted scenes, and all the special little videos that Taika had created for the fans about the making of the film. He’s amazing and it’s no wonder.

Chris Hemsworth and Taika Waitiki on the set of Thor: Ragnarok (click photo to go to Den of Geek interview with Taika Waitiki)

A native New Zealander, its no surprise that Taika is super cool, talented, AND has a fantastic sense of humor. But it’s also understandable why we here in the northern hemisphere hadn’t heard much about him before he directed Ragnarok. Thankfully his talent has been recognized and it has opened doors for him to do projects like JoJo Rabbit.

It seems a lot of people were a bit worried about a satirical movie about Hitler, so much so that Taika had to take on the roll of Hitler himself. But there’s a lot of awards buzz so it looks like he knows what he is doing!

2. FITS socks – I have been a SmartWool girl for years. I get cold feet and these things were like manna from heaven – wool but washable and not itchy? Pinch me! Then a friend of mine told me about FITS socks and said she liked them better than SmartWool. I was completely skeptical but I decided to try them. OMG, she was right! They still have all the benefits of SmartWool but with betters options in terms of height (fat calves over here) and padded heels (insert Hallelujah chorus). Both socks are a blend – Smartwool is Merino wool, nylon, and elastane. FITS is Merino wool, nylon, polyester, and lycra. Admittedly I do like a lot of the designs on the Smartwool better but I’m willing to give that up for comfort – you know what they say, “form follows function.” Sorry SmartWool, I’m afraid I’m a FITS girl now.

3. This photo of Ted Danson – the man is utterly joyful from being arrested. I LOVE THIS GUY!!!

4. This article about What We Can Still Learn From Mister Rogers as Adults By Shayla Thiel Stern. You’re going to want to read the entire article but the main points are:

  1. Routine and responsibility are the bedrock of your day.
  2. It feels good to make something, even if you aren’t very good at it.
  3. Put on your sneakers.
  4. The Land of Make-Believe is still there for you.
  5. Look for the helpers.
  6. Finally, just be a good neighbor.

5. These photos taken by photographer Jermaine Horton. An 8 year-old named Marian Scott (isn’t that an epic name for a little kid in 2019?!?) showed up to school in Jackson, Michigan on school picture day. It seems however the school has some sort of nonsense policy that kids are required to only have hair color in “natural tones.” Marian had red-extensions. What did the school do? They didn’t allow this 8 year-old to have her school photos taken. Can you say devastating? Well guess what – her parents were pissed to say the least and it got on the news. That’s how Jermaine Horton heard about and she offered to do a super awesome photo shoot for Marian free of charge. And as you can see, the photos are WAY better than any old class pictures would have been.

Photographer Jermaine Horton put on a professional photo shoot for 8-year-old
Marian Scott after she was denied school pictures for having red hair extensions.